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Its not everyday you see a Nigerian wedding being announced in New York Times, but this highly successful couple had their wedding in the top newspaper.

Below is their profile and the announcement:

Hameedat Temi Adeniji, the daughter of Oluwatoyin A. Adeniji and Lateph A. Adeniji of Arlington, Tex., was married Sept. 24 to Osifo Odili Akhuemonkhan, the son of Elizabeth A. Akhuemonkhan and Edward E. Akhuemonkhan of Abuja, Nigeria. The Rev. Donald Ours, a Roman Catholic priest, performed the ceremony at the Holy Trinity Catholic Church in Dallas. A traditional Nigerian Yoruba ceremony took place at Noah’s Event Venue in Irving, Tex., on Sept. 22.

The couple met in 2011 at Columbia, from which she received a law degree and he received an M.B.A.

The bride, 29, is known as Temi. She is a director in the international strategy and operations department at Warner Music Group, a record label based in New York, where she oversees day-to-day operations of international subsidiaries and evaluates expansion opportunities. She graduated from Princeton, and received a Master of Law from University College London.

Her father is a lawyer in Arlington. Her mother is an accountant for the Texas Health and Human Services Commission in Grand Prairie, Tex.

The groom, 32, is a vice president in the financial advisory group focusing on mergers and acquisitions at Lazard, the investment bank in New York. He graduated from the University of Maryland.

His mother, who is retired, was a vice principal at Amuwo Odofin Secondary School in Lagos, Nigeria. His father, also retired, was the group general manager of finance and accounts for Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation, a government-run oil corporation in Abuja.

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The London Promoter bad guy Toba has proposed to his Ghanaian girlfriend Nana.

Nana the fashion entrepreneur before she received beautiful ring from her soulmate thought she was going on movie premiere titled “The Hidden Truth” at Curzon Cinema in Victoria with her girlfriends.

Nana was to meet Toba to celebrate his birthday with him but it all turned out to be a wonderful night for her as her boyfriend of 5 years pop the question..

Toba said this below:

“Started from a Facebook message in 2011, then on Sunday 25th 2016, you agreed to marry me. I knew I found my soul mate the moment I saw you for the first time all those years ago Nana. Thank You For trusting in me… Now let’s go show them how to get married in style #NanaToba2017 

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The Founder and Presiding Bishop of Living Faith Church World Wide, Dr David Oyedepo has added a year to his age.

To celebrate him today, his wife Pastor Faith Oyedepo on her IG page shared a heartwarming message for the darling hubby.

The lovely words are;

Happy 62nd Birthday to my Wonderful husband! Sixty two (62) years ago, on this particular historic day, saw the birth of a great giant. A man predestined by God to liberate mankind from the oppressions of the devil. A man with unwavering faith and devotion to God, the Kingdom and his family. One that has proven beyond reasonable doubt to be an exemplary leader, a visionary, mentor, prophet, father and friend; one whom I am privileged to be married to.

Today on this extra special day, I celebrate you my husband, the love of my life … the passion of my heart … my friend … my companion … my husband … my lord. I cannot stop thanking you for coming into my life and showing me the God kind of love. With you, I have learnt more than I imagined. You’ve helped me to see that there is so much more to believe in. You have loved me so dear and opened my eyes to see new possibilities in unearthing my potentials.

Together, God has enabled us to raise enviable children who are all now Kingdom giants in our lifetime to His glory! You are an unparalleled man of valour. Surely, the grace of God will keep multiplying upon your life and ministry in new and greater dimensions in Jesus’ name. Life has become extra special since you entered my world.

Every day I awake renewed by the thought and constant echo of your love! Many men have done valiantly, but thou, my husband, my darling, the husband of my youth, excellest them all. We shall yet do greater things for God and His Kingdom! Congratulations and happy birthday darling husband, father, friend, teacher, mentor and lover! #Papa62

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Welcome to Nigerian campuses where little girls are practising 'wifely functions'! 
Just visit the boys' hostels and you would be disappointed to find out that it is now common for a girl to live in with a course mate. It is now common for her lover to give her the popular compliment 'you look sexy my gal' and she would gladly reply 'thank you honey' with a flirty voice and a romantic smile. Who is her lover? A 300 level student whose CGPA is barely up to 1.78! And they are aiming for the next best couple award for the session by the departmental association. So, the girl need to live with him to prepare along.

What nonsense! It seems that some girls suddenly loose their senses immediately they gain admission. I've seen that some of them have no more sense of caution, honour and dignity. They would change their wardrobes and acquire a new set of make ups just to look
'campussy' and sexy enough for the guys. In months, they would start sleeping around with little boys. I mean boys who collect pocket money from their uncles! Dirty boys who most of the time are infected with sexually transmitted diseases. Hey! I want you to know that you were sent to school to obtain a degree not a disease. The campus is called a school; school not sex! You are on campus to receive education not expulsion. You are here to master the use of a pen not the pleasures of a joystick. Wake up girl! Do some thinking. Your future is greater than the 'best couple award'. You cook for a boy you are more intelligent than.

You give your virginity to a boy who will definitely leave you after graduation. You play wife to a boy who cannot even care for himself. Oh, you have given too much. Enough! Open your eyes! Can't you see you're being foolish?

You are passing through the fears of unwanted pregnancies yet you are opening your legs to a coward who cannot stand before your father. And when you eventually gets pregnant, he would brutally advise you to abort it and you would timidly agree; then face the consequences later. What a shame! You may master the use of condoms but you can't master the punishment of your conscience. Don't you know you are bringing shame to your family? Don't you know that you are cursing your mother by accepting to sleep with a boy (not even a man) without her consent? 

I cautioned a girl against sleeping around and she replied 'Sheddy, I don't sleep around; its only one boyfriend I have and am faithful to him'. What impunity! That's classified harlotry. And don't you know that sleeping with a man without your father's blessings is bringing a curse to your future?
What happened to your cultural values?

Somewhere in your heart you know he would use you and dump you; so why are you setting up yourself for a heartbreak? I want to remind you that you are a lady and one day you may get married. And your husband would know that you are such a dirty Dam who sleeps with anything on trousers. The greatest gift a lady would give to her husband on the wedding night is her virginity less lost it out of (rape) not the certificate of best couple of the year on campus!
The other gifts for the rest of her life are her
care and character not her curves and
complexion! Real men know this; so, get it screwed in! Those treacherous boys would call you 'sexy' and you would answer? Oh, sorry! They touch your breast and you would smile? They would ask you out and you would oblige? Oh, you are
indeed a mistake. I'm not saying that you should be rude or never live a 'social life' but I want you to think deeper than you are currently doing. I want to turn your attention back to your books.

You are not in school for breast exhibition. So, pay less attention to those boobs and give more attention to your books! You are not in school for cat walking show. You are rather here to show us the dignity of womanhood. You are here to prove to us that you are costly. So, why make yourself so cheap?

I am writing this with both love and pain in my heart and that's why am sounding stern. I know about two girls now that have been living with
their boyfriend since year one and as it is now they can't even even count how many abortions they had for that same boy at sch bae. it's now like a normal thing to them, the last one she did almost took her life and that made her bleed for 4 months, imagine how you do feel with ordinary 4 days of menstruation left alone living with it for months.. As a matter of fact one of them have damaged her fallopian tube due to excessive use of contraceptives she has taken to prevent pregnancy. I want you to look beyond now and think of what advise you would give your own daughter when you become a mother. I hope I have not offended you...if I have, please repent.

To the decent girls I have seen on campus: do not be swayed by these evil. Be consistent and keep celebrating your purity. I am always proud of you. And God is more proud of you.
....... . Thanks.

Bernice Cryout(Voice of Inspiration)
400Level Department of Nursing,
Nnamdi Azikiwe University

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“We do not want riches, we want peace and love”- Red Cloud. The quote of Red Cloud has justified the story of Adaeze that we will read and profound a solution to.

I am Adaeze a 200 level student in the department of Sociology and Anthropology in one of the Federal University in Nigeria. Just like some student on campus I nurtured the dream of coming out of school successful.

In the quest for seeking knowledge from people that know more than I do, I got caught at the love web of Sam who graduated as a Sociologist but currently waiting for employment.

Before we started dating, he comes to my school and held tutorial classes for those in my department and helps us out with one or two assignment.

I was glad that someone can actually explain to our own understanding what the lecturer taught that seemed difficulty. With that I started seeking more of his help in my assignment and receiving some explanations on any topic after he is done with the tutorial class.

Unaware of his keen interest in me, I continued meeting him for help until he professed his love saying, “Ada you have won my heart, you are different from other girls I have met, you are intelligent and always eager to learn, you are beautiful, caring and have good manners. Baby words cannot explain how much I love you. Please accept me into your life.”

Just like a bomb blast I received this words from Sam. It did not take me time to accept his proposal because of his personality and owing to the fact that I love everything about him. We started hanging out from time to time visiting each other houses, going to church and market together and so on.

Our 5 years relationship started to develop cracks when he started demanding for sex from me on several occasions that we are together but instead I refuse doing it. He stopped calling, texting and coming around my apartment to check on me. If I call he will either hang the call on me or shout at me.

I love Sam so much but it is quite unfortunate that I cannot do what he wants from me because of my Christian fate and he does not want to see reasons with me. I don’t want to lose him. I want the peaceful co-existence and love that we both shared. Please what should I do to win my man back?

 

 

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As at 2014, if a guy I just met invites me to club all night on a first date, I would assume it’s a cowardly act. I’d say he should be a man and tell me what he wants than come under the guise of a club outing.
In fact, if anyone invites me to a nightclub, the person is wasting his or her time.
But late last year, I met someone I broke my rules for. I lost track of how far I went until I realised I was dancing with him at Quilox by 1am on a Friday night. Then it hit me that I did the same thing the Friday before then, and two Fridays ago It had become our routine.

Me, letting myself lose with someone I felt could protect me. He was adventurous and he took me to most of the places in Lagos I ever wanted to visit. I was convinced I had found a good guy I can be bad for.
Small problem.
He didn’t ask me out… But he looked at me the way Romeo looked at Juliet. He told me he loved me. He would hold my hands and stare into my eyes. Whenever I complained of loneliness, he showed up at my door and stayed all day until I begged him to leave.

There was no evidence he had someone and well, actions they say, speak louder than words.
I did not have to wait for him to ask. I was his friend that is a girl, his girlfriend, literally and I wanted nothing more than to have his babies.

So I took the bull by the horn and brought up the marriage talk one evening, five months after we first met.
I was disappointed when he said there was no money. He said he was not liquid enough but he had five million Naira fixed in the bank for the next 13 months.

I asked him if he thought I was rushing things. He said no, if money were not a challenge, he would get married to me as we speak.

So I activated plan B. I am not Naijasinglegirl for nothing.

When I keep saying everything is ready except a husband, I meant everything … including the money to fund a small wedding!

So I bought my own engagement ring and went to pay my own bride price. He said he truly loved me and I wanted all of it to be a surprise.

I lied to my family he was abroad and he was going to return a week before the wedding with lots of money. Fortunately, they believed me and collected the dowry.

I had ₦700,000 left. My mom advised on a small traditional marriage where there is a pastor and a lawyer present so we can have all three rites on the same day to save cost.

“Let’s make plans fast.” She said, “Things are getting really expensive these day and very soon ₦700,000 would have little value.”

So we made a list, set a budget for rentals and we were down to ₦430,000 for refreshment/entertainment.
Three tier cake, three bags of rice, two goats, cow meat, chickens, spices, alcoholic drinks/non alcoholic drinks, a couple of souvenirs and we were down to ₦25,000 before we knew it.

₦25,000 was too little for the native soup we had budgeted. We were yet to buy cassava flour even.
Planning a wedding alone is a big deal and I was starting to regret my actions.

So my mother advised we focus on preparing the wedding rice very nice and ensuring there are enough drinks to go round on the D-day.
We decided the main meal for the day was going to two dishes. White rice & stew for the high table and jollof rice for the regulars.

So my mother took the remaining money and set off to the market with my sister. Thirty minutes after, she returned with a small market bag and told me she has spent all the money and it was still not enough. I peeped inside the bag and I was almost crying when we counted. There were not up to 250. We needed more money to make this thing work in these economic times.
I could not keep secrets anymore because I didn’t want to throw a white rice wedding of shame, so I stormed to his house. I had a bad feeling in my gut when I opened the door with the extra key he had given me. As I move closer to his bedroom, I heard noises.

Familiar noises…
I forcefully opened the door and there was he, in bed with another woman. They both screamed. He was shocked. I was speechless. I stared at them mouth agape for what seemed like an eternity. When I came round, I started
making my way to the door. Next thing, he came running after me pleading.

She was his childhood lover. It was complicated. He was confused. He didn’t know how to tell me. He was sorry. He didn’t mean to hurt me. He was going to make things right.

I was mute. He was begging me to please say something. All I thought of was how foolish I had been. How desperate I had been. All the money I wasted preparing for our wedding. There’s only one question on mind.

When I finally found my voice amidst tears, I said, “Do you know 3 small tomatoes is now two hundred Naira in the market?”

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1. Whenever you make him laugh. If all the Facebook posts my friend's mom shares are true, then Marilyn Monroe once said, "If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything." The same applies to guys too. I guess some women can make guys do anything even if they can't make them laugh, but it's still better if you can make them laugh, honestly.

2. When you fall asleep on his shoulder. This is easily on the list of "Top 5 Things Guys Would Call 'Adorable' Even Though Guys Seldom Use the Word 'Adorable' and Also the Word 'Seldom.'" I wouldn't want to read that list though.

3. When you give back one of his sweatshirts. Don't steal them. Someone who knows how to borrow ... that's the kind of person guys fall in love with.

4. When he wakes up next to you and realizes how lucky he is. He does this more often than you know, but then he goes back to sleep for three hours, and you wake up and get mad at him for sleeping through brunch.

5. The first time you spend a day in bed together. This is what clinches it: spending 24 hours together and not getting bored is the moment when you go from being "sort of a couple maybe" to "this is definitely a thing." It might even be the first time he realized he was in love with you.

6. Whenever he doesn't get to see you after a long period of time. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. That's it. That's all I have to say about this one.

7. When you give him a mind-blowing orgasm. The way to a man's heart is through his stomach. But the way to his stomach is through his penis. So, like, transitive property, you can make him fall in love with you more by coaxing the love out of his penis.

8. When you're there for him when he needs you most. Whether he just lost his job or made it through a particularly crushing NFL season, he appreciates you being there even if you don't understand why he's so upset (OK, especially if you don't understand why he's so upset).

9.  After your first huge fight. Most couples have that moment where they really have to make the decision to put in the effort the relationship is going to need to work, and that oftentimes comes after a big fight. While the fight itself may not have been so fun, knowing that you're both willing to fight it out and see things through to the other side just solidifies his feelings for you.

10. Any time you have one of those Perfect Couple Days. It's different for everyone, but every couple has those days where everything just aligns and they have a blast together, whether they're out hiking, or staying in and having a horror movie marathon. These are the days he keeps in the back of his mind for whenever he's annoyed at you.

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Cheating is definitely one quick, big way to absolutely annihilate a relationship, but as a recent Ask Reddit thread pointed out, there are plenty of other things that are much more potent when it comes to ruining even the strongest of bonds. Some of the worst things that lead to a breakup (that aren't cheating) start out small and indiscernible, and that's what makes them so dangerous. 

1. Lying to and hiding things from your partner. 

Even if you're doing it out of love to protect their feelings, keeping little things from someone you're dating can grow into a big problem and cause trust issues that wreck a relationship. As canada432 wrote, "You should be able to tell your partner pretty much anything. If you're hiding something because it would hurt them, then you probably shouldn't do that thing in the first place."

2. Withholding any kind of affection. 

Whether affection means being really touchy-feely, asking each other intense questions about meaningful things, or helping each other through obstacles, being absent and unaffectionate can cause the kind of doubts in a relationship that end up being irreparable. 

3. Harboring quiet resentment. 

As VoxMeretricis wrote, "by the time resentment is expressed, the damage is already done" to the relationship. It starts out quietly but becomes something big over time, which is what makes it so damaging.

4. Lack of communication. 

This doesn't mean not texting all day every day, but failing to talk to each other about things that bother you when they come up, or conveniently leaving out details that you think might cause problems. All that shit just gets bottled up or revealed eventually, and by the time that happens, it's usually unmanageable. 

5. Being stubborn about things or getting entrenched in certain positions. 

This is just another way of saying "refusing to compromise." If you like somebody, you should be willing to compromise. Partners who can only handle things if they go a certain way (their way) are basically just in relationships with themselves. 

6. Bickering about mundane, daily issues and chores. 

Sure, the argument you always have about whose turn it is to take the trash out seems like no big deal now, but that's the sort of thing that just becomes a great issue over time, and even worse, becomes ammo for bigger, more serious arguments down the road. 

7. Condescension. 

Talking down to a partner is just another way of making yourself bigger or more powerful than them, and a power imbalance is the last thing you want in a lasting, healthy relationship. As messedfrombirth wrote, condescension is worse than cheating because "it makes your self esteem shit," so even after the relationship ends, you still feel the damage. 

8. Staying in a relationship out of convenience. 

Whether it's because you don't want to disappoint your families with a breakup or because you have a big trip planned in six months, staying together just because you feel you should only leads to bitter resentment and an inordinate amount of fighting and heartbreak, when there was a chance you might've been able to remain friendly. 

9. Manipulation. 

This is tricky because it's often so subtle, and you don't realize you're being manipulated by your partner (or doing the manipulating) until it's way too late. As reallybigleg wrote, "the relationships that have left me 'broken' (both of which I left, by the way, so this isn't a case of heartbreak...) have been through gradual loss of self esteem during the relationship through a process of manipulation by the other partner." 

10. Jealousy. 

Even without actual cheating, just the suspicion that it's always happening can be much, much worse.

11. Presenting a false version of yourself at the beginning. 

This can be as simple and small as pretending to like horror movies when you actually hate them, or as big as saying you're not looking for anything serious when, in fact, you are. It's best to be upfront from the get to, because those little things can become huge reasons to breakup over time. 

12. Staying together because you've become codependent. 

"You're together because you're codependent and neither of you wants to be single," wrote beaverteeth92. Or in other words, you don't have chemistry anymore, and the only reason you're together is so you don't have to be alone.

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The following piece is inspired by true events.

I have gone back and forth with this story in my head and I am suddenly burdened by the pressure of telling it and the reaction it might receive.

It was 2006 and 1 was 19, a girl not yet a woman but desperately trying to imitate one. I caught a glimpse of him at our department and immediately thought that there was something fascinating about the way the sunlight illuminated his ebony skin and how animated his smile was. I carefully studied him as he strutted on looking unsure of his steps now that he had noticed me blatantly staring.

By Luck or precise calculation, I saw him again but this time we happened to be in the same cab home from school and made sure I sat close to him. He did not stand a chance in starting the conversation instead he was interrogated by me. I asked all the questions I needed to know to be his woman. Age, Sign, Schools, Family, Course, Class, Relationship and in his response, I knew he had seen me too. The cab ride still is one of my favourite stories to tell because something that was somewhat stalker-ish became a meet cute.

Needless to say, we hit it off well, so well that it scared us. We hid the giddiness of our pre-mature love and thought that it would die off as quickly as it started but it grew and was impossible to hide. We were so young and impressionable and I remember we put all our ideologies of love we got from the movies, the books and the married in school love and based our relationship on it.

Our sexual awakening formed me to be the expressive woman I am. I had always been the girl who wanted sex but never quite got the perfect opportunity or person to experience it with but with him, we both learned the length and breadth of our bodies with the luxury of time and space. We were attentive to the curling toes and the quiet gasps, the poignant smell and the burgeoning nads. We were in sync in our sexual rhythm and our deliberately synchronized climax. With him, my body never stood a chance.

Like most humans, we often feel the need to test our peace and happiness and in turn sabotage our serenity in the process. I cheated. It was a totally random event I never saw coming. Looking back now and seeing how the events leading to my infidelity played out, I can tell that it was the curiosity that comes with sabotage that lead me into the arms of another man. Of course, I regretted it immediately and with the undiluted honesty I shared with him, it was impossible for me to hide. I knew there was no crying or begging needed, I had gotten the boot. Then he said “If I left you now, I would be doing so because of what people would say…. But I am not ready to stop loving you….” We both cried that night and I promised never to hurt or disrespect him again.

However, news of my infidelity got out and everyone made him the donkey. They would ride his confidence and sincerity and turn him to alcohol and other women to boost his ego and hurt me. I looked on receiving my punishment and secretly wished that we would be even and move on. We broke up so many times in this period that I lost count. I began to feel his hidden resentment for his love for me and the hurt I caused him but I ignored it.
I am no longer interested in this relationship….” he said as he stood by my door. He did not even come in. I was shocked at how expressionless his face was. I had never seen him so blank. Years later, I would interpret that look to be hate. I never got closure and never understood why a good relationship would just end so abruptly. I had imagined that if my cheating didn’t break us up then we could face anything.
I cried, begged, cursed, pleaded with friends, hated, feigned indifference and cried some more but he had moved on. I became angry and defeated. Angry because I felt played and defeated because there was nothing I could do to get him back.

He was not done with me. Anytime I needed him, he made himself publicly available even when he moved on to the woman he eventually married, I never felt and dare I say still do not know what it means without him. She knows how twisted he and I are but she is his wife and feels he is entitled to his thrills. Yes, I am a thrill. I have had to own that term to move on.

Then it hit me, he hates me. It came as a shock but it was undeniable. He despises me. He never let go of his hurt and I had let him hold it over my head. Hate and despise crept in the perfect relationship I tried too hard to hold on to and it is 2016 and I am writing about it.

He is happily married now and I can’t even get a text back.

Side note: I do not know why I was inspired to write this but I know this is meant for a man or woman who is finding it difficult to move on or has been so deluded to stay in a relationship because of all the huge sacrifices that has been made by both parties. Please move on and severe ties today.

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As the sayings go “You’re only as young as you feel” or “age is nothing but a number”; so when it comes to dating men a few years younger, age shouldn’t be a barrier or should it? What I think is to be considered more importantly is communication, common interests. How well do we get along and is there an attraction? Although the conversation should also rationalize how much younger you are willing to go for a woman of a certain age.

For instance a woman in her early to late 30s who is dating a man in his early or mid 20s may think to herself “I just want to let my hair down and live a little” Chances are that he’ll be more spontaneous and adventurous than you’re used to. Some may say men in their twenty’s don’t quite have it together or are still on the journey of discovering themselves. They are not mentally ready to take on the emotional responsibility of being with a woman in that age bracket. The onus lies with the woman to be practical about the situation and accept it for what it is. If it doesn’t work out, both parties move on just fine.

Can it really be as clear-cut and simple as that? Are we females capable of simply just having fun and moving on from someone without any pain, even if he is that much younger? Don’t get me wrong there are young men in that age bracket who are already achievers. I used to work for Zurich Insurance Group in Swindon and the program manager was only 26 years old. In my line of work at the time, contract program managers earned in the region of £500-£600 a day. This young chap had business analysts, system architects and system analysts such as myself reporting to him. So for a woman any age he would be a great catch.

Consider this: a case where he is an achiever, has it all going for himself, great career, head screwed on tight and a looker. He isn’t concerned about the age difference and makes no issue of it. He handles you like a man should and the sex is off the chain. He’s a great conversationalist and constantly reassures you of his desire for you. Do you begin to imagine your future with him in it? You probably didn’t plan to fall this hard for him. Out of 10 boxes he ticks all 10. Do you stop yourself based on the fact he may be 7, 9 or 10 years younger?

Thoughts may start to creep up as you age along; when you’re in your late 40s dude is chilling in the 30’s. Insecurities will start to develop, will he still find you attractive, can you compete with younger better looking females? Will sex still be as explosive when it begins to dry up in the cabinet below?

I’m of the opinion that love is age-less; when a man wants you, he wants you… regardless of how old you are.

From experience, dating younger has never been an issue for me. What I have personally been more bothered about is, that I have the companionship I desire and that we enjoy each other’s company, enough to want to stay together. Psychotherapist Robi Ludwig claimed that, “In some cases, a younger guy is developmentally in a different place…he’s not ready for all of the pressures and responsibilities that go along with a committed relationship because his emotional maturity is not fully developed yet.”
This could be generalizing to an extent, because people of all ages aren’t interested in serious relationships, and plenty of people of all ages are interested in serious relationships, too.

Sadly and funny enough,we are in the era of f**k boys (excuse my language) – but it is what it is. Nice looking, well put together young men who come under the guise of what may seem as lovely gentlemen but all they want to do is f&%k. On the other hand, older doesn’t necessarily mean better – as age and maturity are not quite related.

That being said I think women should be open. Centuries have limited the choices of women and I believe we are in a much more liberal moment in time where our social consciousness has allowed us freedom of choice. You don’t have to be rich or beautiful, but just be open to the idea of seeing younger men as an additional option for partnership.
As flattering as it may be that someone 10 years younger is in hot pursuit of your time and attention, we females need to apply some sense.

Before dating a younger man, things I feel should be considered:

1. Is he mentally mature enough to be with a woman much older than him?

2. Where is he in his life and career? Lots of conversations and observing will eventually highlight these.

3. What are his goals for family and children and how far along in the future are the goals?

4. Is being with an older woman just a fantasy he is living out through being with you or does he genuinely want you?

5. Is this just a bit of fun for both of you and when he starts to back track will it be easy for you to let go and move on?

6. Can you have a grown up conversation with him?

7. Is he independent?

8. When he talks does he sound like he is much younger?

9. Will dating a younger man leave you lonely?

10. After dating someone younger, can you comfortably slide into dating men within your age group or older?

11. Are you embarrassed of him in the presence of your friends?

12. Is he embarrassed about you in the presence of his friends?

13. Are you with him just for sex?



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