Relationship can be difficult to maintain especially when you’re still trying to determine whether the relationship is fixable.
a break in a relationship is not just about the separation, bounce back, proceeding onward or living joyfully among others. The memories of the breakup can be devastating.
You need to think it through before you choose to release or welcome your ex back in your life. Here are 8 absolutely brain storming questions you need to ask yourself before you give another opportunity to your ex.
1. The reason for your breakup
There can be unlimited purposes behind separating and some of them can be truly senseless. You need to examine what led you the break up over and over again. You need to consider if they are really worth your coming back together.
2. Reasons for wanting you back
You need to know why he or she wants you back. This is similarly vital for you to know the unmistakable purpose behind needing you back in their lives. You need to know if there is no mischief behind the second chance they are asking for.
3. Don’t get deceived by words, look at expressions
It is better for you not to get over excited about a second chance from your ex because you have to consider the motive when he/she approached you for another opportunity. Are they truly attempting to accommodate or just playing around with you?
4. How serious were you two in the relationship
There is no point wasting time over a relationship. A relationship that is on and off does not worth a second chance. If you quarrel often and you two separated all of a sudden, then no need for another opportunity.
5. Do you still feel something or have you moved on?
There is no point considering giving your relationship another shot if you have both moved on.
6. Is there still trust?
A relationship without trust is as good as building on a bad foundation. However, similarity and trust resemble two columns for a relationship.
7. How did they react after the breakup?
Before you bounce to any conclusions, do some historical verification on their life after separation. You can converse with regular companions who were in contact to know truly about their activities.
8. Would you both be able to adjust?
You have to think well before doing anything. Regardless of the possibility that she needs you back, things will not phenomenally turn for good after both of you get back together.Read More
I got this mail from a friend who was desperate to share this with as much people as she can.
This story is not one of those stories that emanates from a hair salon or a beer parlour. This happened to an everyday person like you and me and also at a popular university in the eastern part of the country. According to the story, the pregnant lady had a rich and handsome husband who is based abroad. But unknown to her, her best friend and course mate who was also one of her ‘ashebi’ during her traditional ceremony had been eyeing her husband for a long time and had been waiting for an opportunity to snatch him from her. She often disturbed her friend to link her up with her husband so that he would convince one of his rich friends to marry her. Her friend thought she was actually interested in marrying one of her husband’s rich friends so she gave her the husband’s email address. The moment she got it, she decided to slander her friend. She so much painted her friend black that her husband decided to dump the legitimate wife. (Some argue she used voodoo on the man) He proposed to his wife’s best friend and course mate and she accepted to be his wife. The funny girl then informed her friend, who was still in the dark about what was going on, that she was getting married. Her friend was happy and inquired about the identity of the man, but her friend refused to disclose his identity. She told her she would know his identity at the right time. They even made wedding plans together. Her pregnant friend never suspected anything until her husband sent her packing from the house he had rented and furnished for her, only for her friend to pack into the same house. It was then that her naive mind opened and she realised her best friend had taken her husband from her. She tried all she could do to stop the marriage. Talked to her family, her husband’s family, but he was rich and gave generously, and so even the kinsmen were tongue tied to go against him. The man married her friend and abandoned her with his eight months baby. He only promised to take the baby away from her after she puts to bed, arguing that he would give him a better life.
I know lots of guys are going to say nasty things about women. Women are this and that but it is not only women that are capable of such wickedness. Men are also wicked. The strange thing is that this happened in a very popular school in the East. The name of the school is not important.
The question is, is it bad to be naive? Is it bad to be good and kind and not see evil in human beings; is it bad to be good??
Have you ever met a guy that expresses genuine interest to have a serious affair with you but after one or two dates, the interest waned and he took to his heels? Have you ever wondered why it happened? A lot of women would start pointing fingers at evil beings and would waste precious time and energy binding and casting into abyss what might not be the cause of their problem. This is not to say that such evil beings cannot do such things, but most times it is women that scare away men that come to them and not these super natural entities.
How can a woman scare away a man that is genuinely interested in her? This usually happens unconsciously and she can do it in a number of ways:
Saying the three loaded words too early
It is not always safe to tell a guy how much you love him just after one or two dates. Men usually decode those three words to a signal that you are just one of those women who are desperate to rush into a relationship and cannot wait for a man to take care of their needs. Even if you are crazy about him, believe me girl, don’t say it. Just relax and be yourself.
Heaping your personal burdens on him
Nothing says ‘run’ to a man faster than hearing or sensing that a woman wants him to be her donkey or beast of burden. Most women do this after one or two dates, they begin to off load their problems and heap them on him. Especially in this recession, no man wants to be in a sort of relationship where he is carrying your entire burden. Even if you must do it, it should not be very early in the relationship. Otherwise he’ll have you on your back as soon as possible and run away.
Being possessive after one or two dates
There is nothing men hate like possessive women. Every guy wants and enjoys his liberty so it is unwise to start monitoring him when you are yet to secure his heart. Don’t insist on knowing where he goes or trying to know whether the people that call him are his girlfriends or not. Don’t make his friends not like you by always insisting on being alone with him all the time. Choking him with you won’t help, it is better to give him breathing space.
Forcing him to be what you want
Most women do this unconsciously after one or two dates. They try to force the man to be what they want. They may do this directly or indirectly. Most men do not like this. It gives them the impression that the woman would try to control them after going to the altar, and you know how men feel about being controlled or ruled by women. If you do not want him to run away, do not force your wish on him.
Trying to find out how rich he is.
I understand, no woman wants a broke man but this is a huge mistake. Wanting to know what he does, how much he is paid and how he spends his money after just one or two dates. Most men would frown at this. It paints the picture that you are only interested in the money. An average sensible man would take to his heels once he gets this negative signal.
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When you feel like you are trapped in a marriage and you have complaints about your man, you want to do something about it. Life is too short to be spent ‘managing’ and coping when you think you would be better off on your own or maybe even with someone else.
Before you call it quits and move on to supposed pastures green, let’s look at some of the things your man may have been doing to wind you up.
BTW: read on with a mocking voice in your head:
You think there is a problem when your man gets on well with your family. He visits your parents and siblings without you, he is always on the phone with your brother, and he buys your family gifts without telling you. Why stay with such a man? He is taking over your life. He needs to learn to mind his own business and leave your family alone. What is his game plan anyway? Trying to impress the in-laws? Leave him!
If he wants to attend parties with you then you are quite right to assume he has a problem. Why can’t he stay at home like some men or go out with his own friends and get drunk? Are you his minder? He is suffocating you and you can do without all the attention he insists on showering you. Leave him!
Praying is another big issue. Each person will answer to God for his own actions so why should you seek God together? When your husband insists on having family prayer goals with you, you know you are in trouble. Surely he wants to ride on the back of your ‘exceptional’ spirituality to enter heaven? Let him pray on his own and leave you to pray on your own. You need to leave this loser before he collects all your blessings.
He calls it being careful with money, you call it stinginess. He is stingy, period. He wants to make sure he completes the hire purchase payments on your car before he buys a brand new generator. Your house still doesn’t have any carpets after one year because he is saving up before he orders them, when he could just get a bank loan. Everything is carefully calculated and accounted for. He can’t live in the moment and buy you some extravagant present with the money in your joint savings account. He really should go and marry his money.
He works hard, so hard that he hardly has time for other things. However he is never too tired to stand too close to you when you are doing the dishes or while you are distracted watching TV. Everyone knows that married couples don’t have the hots for each other after the first few years of marriage. Here you are, after 10 years and he is always willing and ready. You know it is not viagra. You don’t know what it is about you that makes him so excited but it has to stop.Leave him!
He always insists on seeing the positive side to all things, even disasters. How can someone tell you it was God’s will when he lost out on a promotion at work to his junior colleague? He doesn’trealise that it is a perfect opportunity to gnash teeth and be miserable for weeks, while he plans his revenge? Nothing vexes him and he is quick to forgive. He doesn’t know how to keep malice and when people take advantage of him he just withdraws but won’t create a scene or retaliate. You want your man to be known as a firebrand/local-crazeman who is quick to get into arguments and fights. This shows manliness, according to you and your man is too peaceful to be that. Leave him!
He can spend ages playing with the kids. Is he a child? He should know better than running around the house yelling and screaming with the kids. If you wanted to marry a man-child you could have married someone at least 10 years younger than you. Dads are supposed to be withdrawn and unapproachable. Mums are supposed to be fun, caring ones and he is trying to take your place. Leave him!
He can’t tell lies. Even when he is supposed to lie and cover up something he has done, he always tells you that total honesty between you is key. You on the other hand, can tell lies without any qualms. Why should he make you feel guilty about this?. Not everyone is comfortable with sharing every little secret so his ‘disclose all’ policy is suffocating you. Leave him!
He also has a clean fetish. Everything must be extra clean. He wants you to wash all clothes after each wear and even employed a washman for you. Who has time for all that? All your clothes will fade if washed too often and you believe he justlikes to complain that you and kids tend to smell of sweat. Who doesn’t? He has too many pet hates for your liking. Leave him.
We can now see that this man is not the man for you. The qualities you seem to want in a man are not present in your man. Leave him and go out there and look for a man who will be everything you want. What you think are problems are attributes women want in their men, but different strokes for different folks, right?
If you are reading this and you want to leave your man because he does all of the above, please could you leave the man’s phone number in the comments section below so that single ladies know to ‘avoid’ him.
Seriously though, your man might not be perfect but he is probably better than average. Don’t leave him for flimsy reasons. May God give us the wisdom to know when we have a bird in hand. As the saying goes, that bird is usually worth more than 2 or more in the bush.
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A new generation of men exist these days: quite different to their parents and grand parents and yet unique in their own way. They are still as protective of their women folk as ever and the main route to their hearts is still through their stomachs. They are still the hunter-gatherers in that they provide for their families, but still forget to put the toilet seat down or avoid getting the bathroom floor wet after a bath.
Yet, our new men have some new traits. I have come to discover that men (by that I mean my man) have a unique way of seeking attention. There is a name for it and in the UK it is known as ‘Man Flu’. It is a unique form of aliment that new men get and I bet many women reading this have noticed this new condition.
‘Man Flu’ is a condition shared by all males wherein a common illness (usually a mild cold) is presented by the man as life-threatening. This is also known as ‘Fishing for Sympathy’ or ‘Chronic Exaggeration’. When the patient is your boyfriend or husband, he will exhibit the standard symptoms (such as an overwhelming desire for compassion) while simultaneously rejecting any and all efforts you make to placate him.
Sound familiar? Let’s look at some examples:
My other half ate some dodgy food at a party a while ago and had an upset stomach. Within hours he was curled up in a ball under covers on the bed. I have seen my kids go through bouts of upset tummies without blinking an eye. Naturally, I found my hubby clutching his stomach and panting as if he was about to have a seizure. When I didn’t pay enough attention to his condition, he jumped up and ran to the bathroom and threw up his food for good measure.
Really? I wasn’t convinced but I love him and I had to show some compassion so I asked if he thought we should go to the hospital. With closed eyes, he whispered yes. That was when I knew what to do. I promptly gave him some of the same medicine I use to treat the kids’ tummy bugs and I went for a nap. Later on that evening I found him in front of the TV watching football with a piece of my freshly fried chicken in one hand and a bottle of Malta Guinness in the other.
My friend had to assist her hubby to put his socks on when he sprained his back last month. He claimed he couldn’t bend in any direction. She couldn’t understand why he also had to hobble round the house as there was actually nothing wrong with his legs. However, his back was strong enough for him to sit in front of his computer for hours and sit on the couch to watch TV. The ‘poor’ man couldn’t bend to wear his trousers and asked his wife to help him. While she was doing this, her hubby suddenly had a bright idea! Surely there was something else she could help him with *wink wink*? She said she refused him. He then became very grumpy after her rebuff and his back was miraculously healed the following morning!
Some men have argued that women should not complain about man flu because it was only natural for someone to want some extra attention and cuddles when they felt a bit under the weather. Women should not take advantage of these moments of weakness to criticize men but to recognise it as a cry for attention. That might be so, but what about women?
Women go through all sorts of health issues, the most common being the one that afflicts us every month with varying degrees of pain, discomfort, mood swings and an insatiable urge to eat sweet food and/or chocolate. We don’t complain. Actually, I do a bit, but generally women just get on with things.
40 weeks after a night of unbridled passion, we find we have an uncontrollable urge to go to the loo after carrying a total of 5-8 pounds of extra weight. We bravely drive ourselves to the hospital and deliver baby number four/five or even six. We go back home after a few days like nothing happened, and continue looking after everyone and new baby while we silently wait for our bodies to recover.
We don’t get extra attention or time to relax; we sometimes don’t even get any extra cuddles. But if the man has a cold! Heaven help us!!! He will milk his snuffles so much that it becomes ridiculous. He will demand all the attention, cuddles and sympathy and claim that he is on his last legs.
Men have also counter- argued that women also have unrealistic expectations of them. In the olden days, women didn’t expect men to experience any weakness, either physical or emotional. It also meant that historically, men tended to be withdrawn and insensitive. Now we have a new generation of men who women expect to be sensitive and caring and attuned to their partner’s every need. With sensitivity, it seems, comes men’s ability to create ‘man-flu.
Whatever the reason for men developing man-flu, it is here to stay and every woman has to find a way to be able to discern fake ailments from real ones. On top of all the responsibilities a woman has, caring for a man who is pretending to be unwell for attention should not be one of them. If a man wants extra from his missus he should just ask for it. If he has been good he will get the attention and cuddles and more.
PS: Even young boys are learning fast. My son showed me, according to him, a ‘rather painful’ rugby injury 5 days after the incident, just so I could have sympathy for him after he failed an art test.
Writer – Abi Adeboyejo lives in Birmingham, UK, with her two children and her fabulous man, who by the way, prefers that his wife writes down her thoughts than listening to her musings on everything.
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Dear Lover That Could Have Been,
Where should I start from? The love that could have been is years gone because of the blindness to see, or it was just not meant to be?
It all started when I was in J.S.S. 3 , I was preparing for my final exams when I met you in the classroom where I was studying. Your name is Van and we got talking after studying. You were indeed a gentle handsome man and was different from most of the guys I had encountered.
We started off by being friends and we both understood each other. Our friendship grew stronger and stronger as I entered senior secondary school since you were already there.
We were not in the same senior secondary school but we found a way of communicating; exchanging letters always, phoning and gifts. The gifts mostly were in various forms which was the expression of love (the friendship love). Being brought up in a strict Christian home, I had never been on a date before as at that time so to me it was love; the friendship kind so I thought.
You were a real charming gentleman who ruled my world. As the day grew by, we grew closer than ever. We loved to see each other and we fight, play and did almost everything together. In our friendship, the word love was used frequently but sadly, I didn’t know my best friend has fallen in love with me.
Everyone around us even our families saw us as the perfect couple but somehow we were blind to it. You were the first guy who visited me in my house although my dad didn’t want me mingling with the opposite sex. You were fearless and special to me.
I was living in a fool’s paradise because although I was so much attracted to you and would have loved to be your lover, I didn’t realized you felt the same way about me. There was so much silence because although we felt so much, we were so afraid to speak out.
You bought me a teddy bear which says I LOVE YOU and that was a perfect gift; the love bell. Yet, I didn’t realize I was in love with my best friend and vice versa.
We both attended the same university and although we still stayed friends, something strange happened.
I got a boyfriend and somehow, I felt it would hurt you, so I warned my friends not to tell you because I would like to break it to you myself. Unfortunately, my friends broke the news to you and that was the genesis of my estrangement.
You withdrew from me gradually, although I tried so hard to keep it together. You travelled out of Ghana and that was when I realized that, I broke your heart.
Your travelling sealed our fate; we couldn’t remain friends anymore.
Sometimes I still wonder, were we meant to be together?
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Don’t get me wrong. It’s not that I don’t want you. It’s just that all we do now is have sex. I don’t mind it, because it’s always nice. But I miss you. I miss talking to you. I miss laughing with you. I miss discovering and doing new things with you.
We promised each other that we wouldn’t be just about sex. We talked about life and love and we made future plans. We used to go out a lot; to new places, to old haunts, to friends’ houses, to church even. But all of that has changed now. When you see me, you want to grope me. I’m trying to make conversation and you’re trying to kiss me. I’m trying to avoid your lips and you’re squeezing my breasts – my traitor breasts. You know that once you touch them, I can barely resist, and you use this to your advantage. Every. Single. Time.
I know it means that you love my body. You say it all the time. And honestly, I’m flattered. But I want you to want me for more than my body. I don’t want to become just a physical distraction. I want to be someone you share your life with, not just your body. I want you to pour your heart out to me, not just your seed. I want to mean more to you than a warm bed.
You used to call me a million times every day. You still call me now, but not a million times. I can now count on one hand how many times you speak to me during the day. Our conversations have gotten shorter and shorter. The quiet pauses have become longer and longer. And that’s not all, they’ve become awkward too. I feel like you’re starting to get bored with me, and I’m scared. I’m scared of losing you. I miss the man who made me laugh all the time with his silly jokes. I miss the man who would drive by my office just because he wanted to see me for five minutes. I want that again.
So, perhaps if we take a sexual break, we can get that again. Maybe a sexual break will help us rediscover those things that we have in common, those things that brought us together in the first place. I don’t want to get to a point where I refuse to have sex with you – I never want to be that girl who denies her man. But this is really important to me, so I would really love for you to understand what I’m asking and to work with me on it. I promise it doesn’t mean I love you any less. I promise it will even help us get closer, which is a great thing.
I know sex is an important part of our relationship. And you are a virile man. I blush just thinking about how virile you are. But we used to cuddle a lot afterwards. We used to talk too; soft, quiet conversations. Now though, you roll away the minute we’re done, and you put a hand over your eyes, so I can’t even see what you’re thinking. Sometimes, you start to snore even and I’m left all by myself with my thoughts, wondering what’s happening to us.
I don’t think you’re sleeping with someone else. But I’m worried that you’re talking with someone else; that you’re getting your emotional ‘fix’ from a different source. And with things like that, it’s only a matter of time before it moves into the physical. I don’t want to believe that you have stopped loving me. The few times I get to look in your eyes these days, I see it still. And that’s what gives me the courage to ask this of you. Please sweetie, let us reconnect. If we go on like this, we’ll drift apart. I’d stop coming by to visit because I’d start to feel used. You’ll start to think I don’t want to be with you anymore and you’d stop caring. And that will be the end of this beautiful thing that we have.
Please don’t push me away when you hear this. Don’t become distant. Don’t punish me for trying to help us be a better couple. Don’t pick a fight. I’m not trying to be stubborn. I’m not trying to use your love for my body against you. I’m not being manipulative. I just want us to be happy; to be happier really. I hope you do to.
*I wrote this in first person because I thought it might be more relate-able. There are lots of ladies out there who are in relationships that have become overly physical and they can’t seem to get out of the rut. It can be scary to contemplate having such a conversation with your boyfriend, especially one with whom you have been for a good amount of time. It is almost always certain that the guy will take such a request out of context and maybe even move on to someone else, someone with less ‘drama’. My rule of thumb is speak your mind, always. Humans are not mind readers, men especially. If you don’t talk about what’s bothering you, he won’t know. And in speaking about it, you might find out what’s bothering him. All in all, it’s a better place to be. If you’re afraid to lose him, then this is also a good way to find out if he’s afraid to lose you. And if he’s not afraid to lose you, then he probably has options and you have no business making him your priority. Self-respect and self-love are cultivated through strength of will. The more assertive you are, the less influenced you are by people, and the more they respect you.
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As an Arts student, I had to endure several Christian Religious Knowledge (CRK) classes in my senior secondary school years. One would think that as a Christian, I would come to define the period as one of the most edifying moments of my life, but actually, if I could turn back the hands of time, I would still sleep through most of the classes again… with joy. I won’t deny that some of the classes were quite illuminating, though. One of the lessons that I found very revealing was the one on Ruth and Boaz.
As the teacher rambled on with the story on the day, I remember how astonished I was at Ruth’s audacity. A young girl who had lost the love of her life and dedicated the rest of her life in service of her mother-in-law, Ruth knew she needed stability and security for herself and the older lady (Naomi). She built up her reputation, made sure she was seen by the right people, and the moment she realized that Boaz- possibly the wealthiest man around in the area and also kind- had noticed her, she took the bull by the horns and initiated a relationship with him. In fact, theology explains that by lying down next to Boaz that night, Ruth was “symbolically proposing marriage to him.”
Although not the most iconic of stories in the Bible, I think I found the tale particularly interesting as it applied to the situation around me at the time. I was in SS3, and during that time, I was battling with feelings I had for a boy who was in SS2. I liked him and I knew he liked me too. The problem, however, was that the dude was too shy to approach me as he was not sure how I would react to the idea of “dating” a junior. In my teenage head, I thought: dating a younger guy would certainly be a case of me settling for less, but then…he was super popular and that was what really mattered. Though Ruth knew she was going to be settling, she did not wait for the guy to woo her. She went for what she wanted, opinions be damned. Initiating the romance my heart sought just made sense!
Of course, I didn’t give in to the temporary insanity. I never approached the boy, and basically, stolen glances were all I amassed in the end. My fear of being considered “too brazen” or “easy to get” was just too strong, and again, though I was only 14 then, I already knew I was the kind of woman who just had to be wooed.
A number of Nigerian women today, either out of desperation, superiority complex, feminist beliefs, or just plain obsession initiate romantic relationships and even propose to their men. I am not judging, but apparently, the era when such behavior was considered inappropriate for the women folk is far gone. The night I raised this issue with one of my very feminist friends, she said “ The worst that could happen when a girl asks a guy out is he’ll say no. And if he says no, nne, dudes have been told “no” since the establishment of dating social norms. Just like those dudes, the girl will be alright! There is no difference between the guy and the girl and even more, there is no rule that says the guy has to make the first move.”
Call me old-fashioned, but…I believe that deep down, even the most passionate feminist would rather be wooed than woo a man.
Let’s face it, all a girl has to do is drop a few hints and if the guy likes her back, he’ll most likely declare his feelings or pop the question before she blinks. Honestly, it is a safer and easier way to get to know if a guy likes you, and it cuts out the embarrassment that comes with a guy turning you down.It has nothing to do with feminism or self-confidence.
It is what it is.
Being flirty and sending signals to try to get the man to make that move surely beats a girl literally making the first move. What do you think? What is your opinion on a girl asking a guy out and/or making the first move? Is it generally a good idea or just not okay?Read More
Most married women have a general issue, cheating husbands. Lots of argument, discussions, and seminars have been held centred on this topic. Almost every married woman and even ladies in serious relationships are looking for a permanent solution.
It was on this note that I went on a tour, trying to find out how each woman handled her cheating husband. Need I mention, it was not easy to get them to talk but at the end of the day they yearn for a solution.
I have heard many
hilarious ways women deploy just to keep their husbands in check but there is this particular story that just refused to leave my mind. So I’m going to share! (Short story below)
I knew he was broken, I could tell. Frank is the most exuberant human on the planet. Everything came easy to him. He was a rich man with good genes, you could say he was perfect. I never thought I’d ever see him so humbled. He was scared I would leave him, gosh! I’ve never felt so powerful!
With his head on my bosom, I consoled him, assuring him everything would be fine. I smiled inwardly. I made a mental note to call Clara to thank her again. Her idea had worked like magic. I had doctors fake my husband’s test results, always altering it before he could get a hold of it. The fake HIV test results finally gave my husband back to me.
Talk about extreme! In case you didn’t get the gist (which am sure you did), the woman in question faked HIV test results for her husband. In that way he would stop cheating and belong to her alone.
Okay don’t bite me, it’s what she came up with. But truly what makes men cheat?
Weddings are fun! But it can be hard for some, when they attend an ex’s wedding. Depending on how you broke up and what your relationship has been like since you broke up, the occasion may be filled with regret and envy, or you may be genuinely happy. So, if you have received an invitation to your ex-boyfriend’s wedding, should you go? Also, would you invite him to your own wedding?
We asked some random women, here are some of responses we got:
Well, it depends on how things are between my ex and me. I am very sure my ex will invite me to his wedding, but I will not attend because I am not interested in what goes on in his life.
I would say – if I am not in a better relationship than the one I lost, no matter how close I am to my ex, I will stay away from the wedding. I’ll feel bad and hurt when I see his bride in white and fine makeup. I will wish it was me and I’ll envy her.
I will attend, We ended the relationship on a good note. I don’t see it as being disrespectful to my partner because he already knows about my ex, and the reason we broke up. It is up to my ex to decide if he will attend my wedding or not. But if your current partner is not comfortable with it, don’t go o!
I will not go because I broke up with all my ex-es in a fighting mode. Although I still talk with some, I don’t think I can go for their weddings.
I will go if I am invited. I won’t feel bad or jealous. I will invite my ex as well. If he wants to come, fine. If not, fine as well. Na to rejoice with am.
I will go the wedding because he was simply a part of my life-story. So, life goes on.
As for me, I don’t really like to continue communicating with any ex boyfriend. Though, there are exceptions, but really, life just go on.
It depends on what happened between us. From my experience, I won’t invite him. Let him hear or see pictures. Whatever made him to be an ex is enough reason for him not to come in the first place. If he invites me, I won’t go. I have forgiven him and we have both moved on. So let’s keep on moving on. No grudges. Anytime we see, we will exchange pleasantries and that’s all.
If I am invited, I will surely go to celebrate him. It is too much power to give to anyone to hold me down in grudge or resentment. I think we also need to ask God for help in relating with people.
I will feel bad and jealous, so its better I don’t attend.
I don’t think I have it in mind to attend the wedding that should be mine in the first place.
I will not attend or invite. Not because of grudges or anything… but I just feel it would be awkward. Except if we were not really into each other in the first place.Read More