1. Praise and Approval
Men have egos. They need frequent reassurance about themselves, career paths, efficacy as partners and their attractiveness.
So ladies, let your praise loose. Tell your man exactly what you find attractive about him. Let him know what physical features of his are your favourites. Tell him how attractive you find it when he says something a certain way, when he accomplishes something, or when he takes you on a date. Your praise won’t make him cocky; it will help him feel loved.
Men feel respect as love. If he feels like you disapprove of him, his career, or the things that he believes to be integral to who he is as a person, he will have a hard time trusting and loving you.
3. Emotional Intimacy
From a very young age, men are taught to avoid appearing weak at all costs. Perceived “weakness” includes things like complaining, divulging fears or concerns, and expressing self-doubt or worry. If you dont take your man in your arms when he cries, he would be repulsive and not love you.
Suffocating a man (either by failing to allow him free time or with overly jealous behaviour) is the fastest way to end a relationship. Men need breathing room in a relationship.
5. Physical Touch
Men need frequent non-s*xual touch as well as a sense of s*xual connection. If a man’s partner comes up behind him and touches his neck and hair in a loving way while he sits absorbed in a task, he could feel just as loved.
Men and women are both attracted to certainty in a relationship. The more a man feels like his partner is in it for the long haul, the more ready and able he is to be able to open up to her (assuming he is equally invested in her).
Women do a lot with so little and if they are going to get any further, they need the help of the menfolk.
While it might not be so easy for one man in his corner to change the life of every woman on the face of the earth, you can do your own little bit to make life easier for that special woman in your life.
Here are 5 things that women need in their relationships:
Women need to be appreciated. This means telling them how much their presence and contribution in a relationship or in a family are valued. This should be expressed regularly, accompanied from time to time with gifts and other thoughtful gestures. Whenever the occasion arises, appreciation and praise should also be given publicly.
This will motivate her to do better and bring her joy.
Guys, don’t take that your wife or girlfriend for granted just because she finally said yes. Commit yourself to give her your attention; take time to notice and commend that new hairstyle, that glowing skin or the new dress.
This makes her feel that you still care about her and your relationship is still very connected. Knowing that she is still attractive to you makes her feel good. Don’t disappoint her eagerness to impress you or draw your attention by refusing to pay attention or refusing to acknowledge your observations.
Men need to know that women want them to talk. While this may not be a natural habit, a man who wants his relationship to florish must learn to communicate and express himself with his wife or partner. It is a healthy practice that also helps to prevent the woman in your from assuming and overthinking things
Women have a tendency to worry ; when a man is to too quite or secretive they begin to fill in the gaps with assumptions which makes them to be stressed and in turn brings uneasiness into the relationship. A woman likes it when her man discusses with her and expresses himself.
Women like to talk, they like to make connections and spend quality time with their loved ones. Women also like to be involved in affairs of those they care about, to share activities and experiences with them.
In order to make all these things possible, a man must learn to make time for his woman. This will bring her a satisfaction that brings out her best side and make your relationship deeper.
Don’t expect her to know or remember that you love her. Guys, that woman in your life needs to hear you say it over and over again. Don’t take it for granted.
Let her know how much you love her, the things you love about her, how you fell in love with, etc. Even if you can’t do that, always tell her you love her. Don’t assume that she knows or expect her to live on your past “ I love yous”; she needs to hear you say it regularly.
This makes her to know that the commitment and feeling her mutual and make her feel on top of the world.
Guys do not like predictability — at all. In fact, most of the time, they like to have someone who keeps them guessing and make them work for it.
Here are some weird ways you can make sure he’ll always remember your name… in a good or at least intriguing way.
1. Don’t reveal anything about yourself after brief flings, and usher him out as soon as you can.
Most guys assume that you are going to be looking to talk to him and be interested in his life. Some even assume that girls want a relationship with them, right off the bat. Instead of doing the normal thing, just shoo them out the door with little chit chat the first time or two you sleep with him. Then, slowly open up. More often than not, they will start trying to win you over, because they don’t know what to make of you.
2. Pull back when he starts to pull forward, but just by a little bit.
Some guys really melt at the thrill of the chase, and for those guys, pulling back can drive them insane. They’ll start to wonder what’s going on, what they can do to keep you around, and basically chase you around.
The funny thing is that some guys can’t handle that chase, and if you actually do lose interest, they will turn you into the “one that got away” in their minds.
3. Just be weird.
Honestly, being a wild card is the easiest way to get someone. Just being odd makes people wonder what you’ll do next, even if you’re relatively predictable.
4. Choose edgy or slightly scary date ideas.
If a guy lets you choose the date venue, choose something that would make him a little worried or scared. The reason this works is because studies show that fear often will provoke a response that makes someone feel like they’re falling in love. Interestingly enough, it works on men as well as it works on women.
5. Give him a little bit of worry about whether or not he can actually please you.
This one is risky, because it can backfire easily. The gist of this get method is simple: make him realize other guys are trying to get with you, too. Don’t flat-out tell him, but let him actually see other guys fawning over you. Your role in this is to seem mildly disinterested, which makes him feel privileged to be with you but not 100 percent certain on you.
6. Hold back on affection if he blows you off.
Mirroring men’s behavior towards you really messes with them. They often expect women to flood their phones when they pull back on them. They may even try to act huffy when you ask them to do something. Teaching him how to treat you by mirroring him will force him to either treat you well, or not treat you at all.
In reality, men are much less obsessed with the way you look or your status than you think and often, you are the one who is afraid of commitment … true commitment. Sure, maybe you’re thinking about getting married, buying a house, starting a family … but are you actually committed to him? Or do you just want to add some milestones to your Facebook timeline? Guys can tell, and they don’t want to be a pawn. They want to be listened to and loved like a man.
So here are the real reasons why men dump women, straight from them to you
1. You’ve become the clichéd “nag” without even realizing it
Men know they screw up sometimes. They forget that you have a “certain way” of arranging the dishes in the cupboards, they sometimes leave their shoes on in the house, they snore, they forget to put their dirty clothes in the laundry basket. But you need to lay off sometimes. It gets to them.
2. You don’t trust your man, and they get sick of explaining.
The worrier in you is there to protect you, but sometimes it can be your enemy. For instance, it can be your enemy when you turn every glance at a woman, every late night out, and every missed phone call into a potential cheating episode. When he tells you something, you need to have trust.
3. You drag up the past at every opportunity, and it gets to be too much.
Again, he has made mistakes. But who hasn’t? And no one wants to relive their mistakes again and again. Especially if he has already apologized many times, you need to learn how to leave the past behind.
4. You try to change them, whether you realize it or not.
They may never be that man who wears those shirts you love. He may never love wine tasting. You need to accept that and love him for who he is instead of who you want him to be.
5. You don’t listen.
Finally, men are sensitive. You may not think they are or that they just want to avoid talk of emotions, but they want you to listen. They want to have their feelings heard too.
Best selling author and on Air Personality, Toke Makinwa is in a relationship with a US-based businessman named Oluseyi Kuye.
The media personality who has been keeping her relationship with seyi off the media have showed off their matching Gucci shoes.
She shared the photo and wrote; “His and Hers”.
More photos after the cut
Pre marital sex, sex in general is usually a topic most Nigerians are not comfortable to discuss. Well not these women, here are Nigerian female celebrities who have taken a bold stand against pre-marital sex and are not ashamed to be open about it.
Yvonne orji a Nigerian –american actress in a speech “The wait is sexy” at a TEDx talk says she is against pre-marital sex. The actress said ‘for me at 33 the wait is powerful, discipline, its focus and keeps the main thing
If you are a fan of Toyo Baby in Jenifa’s Diary, you’ll notice that she is always speaking on sexual purity on all her social media accounts.
She was once quoted saying,
“God told me some years back when I never thought I will be an actress or be on TV, that he would open a door for me in the entertainment world and that when he does, I should talk about sexual purity, the message is simply this-being a virgin is not ‘old school’, it is actually trending!
I have a call and I have pledged with all my life, with God’s help that I will not stop being an advocate of purity no matter the opposition. Virginity and sexual purity must not and will not be history.”
After making headlines when she offered her virginity to Boko Haram in exchange of the Chibok abducted girls, Nigerian singer, Adokiye has always maintained that she is still a virginAlthough, many people don’t believe her, she maintains that she will only give it to the right person.
A lot of people are tagging me gay. I don’t blame them. It’s not easy to find a beautiful girl who’s still a virgin, especially in this tough period. The truth is, I love men, I adore them, I cherish them and got so much respect for them but my problem is, I haven’t found that somebody yet, to give my body and heart to. It doesn’t mean I am a lesbian or gay or what not.
Recent studies of People’s profile on dating apps and sites available have revealed that even the least grumpy of us still has certain criteria.
What do you look for in a romantic partner?
Good sense of humour, financial stability, attractiveness are the first thing are the first thoughts that comes to your mind.
Or is it?
Apparently, women look for one thing and one thing only in their search for a significant other, and it will make you wiggle.
A study has explored what makes women choose a male partner, and it has nothing to do with a Good sense of humour.
What women want?
Instead, what women are supposedly after is a man who resembles their brothers.
Just think about that disturbing little lump for a second.
The study, which was published in The Evolution and Human Behavior journal, asked participants to look at the photos of men and then rank them according to who bore the greatest resemblance.
The scientists included photos of the volunteers’ partners and brothers, which they had also sent in.
What the researchers found was “clear evidence for perceptual similarity in facial photographs of a woman’s partner and her brother.”
“Our findings were not a rule or true of every woman but we do find out that, at levels greater than chance, partners did show some subtle resemblance to the women’s brothers,” Lead Researcher Tamsin Saxton old The Independent
Tamsin also suggested “familiarity seems to be attractive”, meaning people are attracted to those with similar views, interests and tastes, in which case “maybe that is something that is coming into play”
This should be your major project that men are constantly working on. If a man is not upgrading himself, he’ll lose his girl sooner or later to a guy who is. That's simply the reality of the world. There are exceptions to this, of course - if you live in a small rural town in the middle of nowhere where no one is really into self-improvement and everything always stay the same, you may remain unimproved and your woman will still stick with you. But for most people, in most parts of the world, investing in yourself and continually improving and upgrading yourself is one of the strongest signs to women that you're a winner and a good pick for the long term. That doesn't have to mean you're making 400,000 a year this year and 4,000,000 a year next year. It could mean that you're reading a lot of new books and learning a lot about topics that are interesting to you. It could mean you're taking some fascinating new classes on languages or technical skills. It could mean you're starting your own website or writing your own book. It could mean you're learning a new sport, art, or hobby. Point is, you need to be focused on YOU first, If you aren't interested in yourself, it's going to be pretty tough to find a girl who's interested in you. Aside from that, always be working on being an attractive, powerful, respectable man. Be fair, but strong. be just, be kind, don't supplicate, be sexy, let other women want you - don't be afraid to flirt. Meanwhile, stay secure. Don't lie to women - women can smell a liar a mile away, and nothing makes a woman more insecure than a man who's scared to tell her the truth. At the same time, do let her know what you really want with her - don't hurt a girl by concealing your real motivations. Give her the right expectations about you, then meet those expectations, the number one complaint I hear from women is that men promised them one thing, then failed to deliver. Don't be that guy. Don't be a lapdog, but do be reliable. Don't kiss up - women know that men who are kiss ups are there one day and gone the next. It's better to be the man who's a little reluctant to help, who then dives in and gives it his all, than the man who's eager to help, but doesn't actually provide that much when he does. Finally, watch out for ultimatums and get to the bottom of them when you find them. Resolve fighting in a relationship whenever it surfaces, then and there. Don't let questions and doubts linger and fester - force resolution when problems occur, rather than pushing them off to get worse and force your girlfriend to try and solve them on her own - say, by taking a lover and be ready if you can't meet her needs to let her go - time is a lot more important to women than it is to men. As a man, your value only increases as you age - hers drops. If you can't give her what she wants - children, ultimately - put aside the selfish desire to keep her for companionship and intimacy, and release her to go find a man who can.
Ace comedian Ali Baba on his Instagram page, shared his opinion on people who enter relationships with only sex, money or power to offer.
People who have only sex to offer are the ones who get jealous, suspicious and quarrelsome. You know why? Because they know that you might go out one day and find someone who has more than sex to offer. So what does that leave them? So they start to put their spouse in the defensive. Go take a critical look at most of those relationships where the guy or babe has only one thing to offer, they will keep talking of security. They want reassurances always. Tell me you love. Promise you will not leave me. Are you sure you are not playing with me? Am I the only one in your life? Do you really love me? Are you tired of this relationship? Do you still love me? …. blah blah blah!
When all you have is a hammer everything is a nail. That is what sums up these kind of people. That explains why they get so angry when you are away from them for so long. Their only stake in the relationships needs to be activated regularly to remain relevant in the scheme of things and in their spouses thoughts. That also explains why many who marry because the sex is good, find out later that good sex doesn’t pay bills. Neither does it cook, run the home, guarantee respect, make your spouse a person you can rub minds with and not skin.
You see you may not know it, but I will tell you, you may be extremely beautiful. That is good. But like sex, if that beauty is all there is to you, in the relationship, the day that beauty is discounted by someone else who has brain and beauty body and cooking skills, with a good dose of home management, last last na modeling agency go need you. So you are a guy, and all you have in your value proposition brief case is muscles. Hiaaaaam. No common sense. Nothing else. So Iet’s look at the sex sef… after a while, its bargaining value in the relationships could diminish.
When that happens what will be your new bargaining chip? Same goes for cash. I know a top society lady who married a big time Lagos big boy, when she knew he was in bad times, she vamoosed! And went to kids for another man. How could she? She could, and she did. Some people too, if the marry you because of your Dad’s political office, when the term of office is running out, they run out too
This should be your major project that you are constantly working on. If you're not, there's really nothing I can say that's going to keep you safe in a relationship. If you are not upgrading yourself, you'll lose a girl sooner or later to a guy who is.
That's simply the reality of the world.
There are exceptions to this, of course - if you live in a small rural town in the middle of nowhere where no one is really into self-improvement and everything always stay the same, you may remain unimproved and your woman will still stick with you. But for most people, in most parts of the world, investing in yourself and continually improving and upgrading yourself is one of the strongest signs to women that you're a winner and a good pick for the long term.
That doesn't have to mean you're making 400,000 a year this year and 4,000,000 a year next year. It could mean that you're reading a lot of new books and learning a lot about topics that are interesting to you. It could mean you're taking some fascinating new classes on languages or technical skills. It could mean you're starting your own website or writing your own book. It could mean you're learning a new sport, art, or hobby.
Point is, you need to be focused on YOU first, If you aren't interested in yourself, it's going to be pretty tough to find a girl who's interested in you.
Aside from that, always be working on being an attractive, powerful, respectable man. Be fair, but strong. be just, be kind, don't supplicate, be sexy, let other women want you - don't be afraid to flirt.
Meanwhile, stay secure.
Don't lie to women - women can smell a liar a mile away, and nothing makes a woman more insecure than a man who's scared to tell her the truth. At the same time, do let her know what you really want with her - don't hurt a girl by concealing your real motivations. Give her the right expectations about you, then meet those expectations, the number one complaint I hear from women is that men promised them one thing, then failed to deliver. Don't be that guy.
Don't be a lapdog, but do be reliable. Don't kiss up - women know that men who are kiss ups are there one day and gone the next. It's better to be the man who's a little reluctant to help, who then dives in and gives it his all, than the man who's eager to help, but doesn't actually provide that much when he does.
Finally, watch out for ultimatums and get to the bottom of them when you find them. Resolve fighting in a relationship whenever it surfaces, then and there. Don't let questions and doubts linger and fester - force resolution when problems occur, rather than pushing them off to get worse and force your girlfriend to try and solve them on her own - say, by taking a lover and be ready if you can't meet her needs to let her go - time is a lot more important to women than it is to men. As a man, your value only increases as you age - hers drops. If you can't give her what she wants - children, ultimately - put aside the selfish desire to keep her for companionship and intimacy, and release her to go find a man who can.
To prevent cheating in your girlfriend, the first thing you need to change in your mindset: it isn't "Must stop cheating!" Rather it must become "Must inspire love, satisfaction, and a desire to remain faithful."
You can't stop a man from committing a crime if he feels he must. But you can help him have such a good life that he doesn't need to, and doesn't have any desire to
Let's examine some common thoughts you might have and what they mean (and what you can train yourself to think instead).
Thought 1: Fear of Cheating
"Oh no! What if my girlfriend cheats on me?"
Means: either you don't know what she wants or needs, or you do and you know you aren't giving it to her.
New thought: "What I'm actually afraid of is that I might not be giving my girlfriend what she needs to stay faithful. I need to sit down and examine my strength - does she see me as a strong, powerful man or is she starting to be dismissive and disrespectful toward me? And I need to examine my security - does she feel secure in this relationship with me, or is she starting to act erratic?
Finally, I need to examine whether she's giving me ultimatums: has she started feeling like the relationship has stalled out and is becoming an obstacle to reproduction?"
Thought 2: Desire to Control
"I've got to keep other men away from my girlfriend/I've got to keep an eye on my girlfriend."
Means: you don't trust your girlfriend. You know she's unsatisfied with you and may be running around or you're phobic of cheating (same as people can be phobic of spiders or public places).
New thought: "If I'm really this concerned that my girlfriend is cheating, there's a good chance I'm with a woman who isn't a good match for me. For instance, if I stay home all the time and she's always out partying, I need to realize she's probably meeting guys at these parties and I'm not providing the kind of lively relationship she likely most enjoys. I probably ought to be dating a girl who's more of a 'homebody' like me."
Thought 3: Fatalism / Victimhood
"Oh, why is the world so cruel as to contain something so terrible as cheating?"
Means: you're trapped in a victimhood mentality that prefers complaining about problems to fixing them or getting out of problem situations.
New thought: "This is stupid. Why am I sitting here complaining to the walls of my bedroom? It's time for me to figure out why women cheat, build myself into a man that most women won't cheat on, and look for women least likely to stray to have in relationships."
Those are the thoughts you should fight with all of your might. If you catch yourself with any of these thoughts running through your head, don't automatically accept them as an objective assessment of the world. They aren't, they're your own subjective emotional responses that are in need of some readjustment if you want to actually have what you want and not wish you could have what you want.
To prevent cheating in your girlfriend, you have to :
1. Become what women want in a relationship
2. Select women most likely to remain faithful when searching for a girlfriend
The one million dollar question is how do I know that a woman I want to date will be faithful?
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