As innocent as children are, they can be bothered about what someone thinks of them, and in trying to impress people, they lose their dreams and childhood.
There is always something new to learn from Aunty Betty Irabor, in an Instagram post she listed the 8 things she would do differently if she had the chance to live her childhood all over again. Simple but really powerful.
If I were to live my childhood all over again, there are many things I would do differently …
I will raise my hand in class and ask “stupid” questions and risk being laughed at.
I will not give up my passion for sports ( hurdles) because someone said my knocked knees were pronounced when I ran,
I will make more effort in my math class even though Mrs. Osho called me olodo,
I will smile more because it enhances my beauty.
I will not play victim because I was raised by a single mum,
I Will face and challenge my demons instead of running away,
I will fight back and get my hands dirty instead of always recoiling.
I will appreciate that I have invisible wings and that all I need to do is flap my hands and fly..
But thank God I got a chance to be all that I thought I couldn’t be… It’s morning yet..
I have always found it weird but mostly hilarious when you read online that someone died during sex. I often wonder if the heart’s ecstasy limit was over stretched and the individual couldn’t take it no more and just had to pass on to the next world. Of course science has explanation for virtually everything you throw at it
On a more serious note though, a study conducted by a leading American medical journal has revealed that each additional hour of sexual activity per week results in an increased risk of 2-3 myocardial infarctions (heart attacks) and one sudden cardiac death per 10,000 person-years. This simply spells for someone who doesn’t exercise regularly, marathon sex is not advised. This makes the heart pump really fast and can induce a heart attack. Further studies show that majority of deaths due to cardiovascular causes during sex do occur in men. Although generally considered to be safe, Viagra use has been linked to sudden cardiovascular death during sexual activity among elderly or otherwise infirm men.
Researchers also say that prescription or recreational drugs, such as cocaine can also possibly contribute to unexpected deaths during consensual sex.
On research I found that some notable individuals who died during or after sex have been recorded including a president, prime minster and a pope...
Lord Palmerston, Prime Minister of the United Kingdom, died in 1865 is believed to have died following a brief illness after allegedly having sex on a billiard table with a maid. However, this account is disputed with some sources claiming that he died of pneumonia.
Although disputed by many historians, Félix Faure, president of France from 1895 to 1899, is believed to have died while allegedly receiving oral sex from his apparent mistress, Marguerite Steinheil. Some eyewitnesses have claimed that he was in a state of partial undress. The exact cause of his death was recorded as a cerebral haemorrhage.
Hollywood actor Matthew McConaughey's father Jack allegedly died while having sexual intercourse with his wife in 1992.
In what is believed to be the earliest recorded account, Pope John XII is said to have died of a paralytic stroke suffered while allegedly having sex with a woman named Stefanetta on 14 May 964. Some researchers opine that he may have been beaten to death by the woman's husband during the act.
Former Vice President of the United States and heir to the Rockefeller family fortune, Nelson Rockefeller, is said to have died in 1979 of a heart attack at age 70, rumoured to have been caused by an orgasm during sexual intercourse with his assistant.
African manifestation of intellectual achievement in terms of social wealth and political power has always been marginalized against women. As much as we would like to declare that women are being empowered especially in the 21st century, we can’t also argue that it is far from being balanced. As an African woman, it is hard to equate the need for social accomplishment and needs of the home. Sparingly, the society stigmatizes you on the blanket of respect.
There is an aloof recognition of your efforts but a glaring disapproval that you are incomplete. Women who pursue their careers in their early years always discover that when they get to the apex, there is no man to build a home with. Few African men would want to marry a woman who earns more than he does. Sentimental arguments like ‘she won’t respect me’,’ who will take care of the home’ et cetera begin to rise up. It is always assumed that a highly placed career or political woman automatically loses her humility making her unable to submit to the ‘Alpha’ male.
For women, it’s a choice; power, fame and success or a family. They almost can’t have both. Women, who do, struggle to stay afloat. A recent study by BBC Africa showed that just 5% of CEOs in Africa are women; the huge left over of 95% is dominated by men.
Asides that, if the ‘woman’ were to be in that position and unmarried, she is either surrounded by feeble minded men who just want to play on her emotions and feed off her money or she is surrounded by gossips, who say the real source of her money is a ‘man’ in the background, or still, she is surrounded by family who tells her to reduce her standards so she can find a man. Social media hasn’t helped a bit. A woman is termed popular or social if she has quite a number of followers and likes. Since the beginning of time, women have always been competitive beings, being the way they are raised, to outshine one another to get the best deal off the husband market. Social media provided the best ring for this fight. Competitors arise to hinder, with spectators to cheer on.
If one gets a lot of likes, she is very beautiful, regardless of her character, composure, attitude, mental IQ, skills as a woman and innate talent. It all doesn’t matter. She could dress carelessly, using crude words, abuse makeup and filters and get a lot of likes. She feels she has friends, she is liked and people just love her. She gradually slips into an illusion, of a non-existent life. At a certain age, where her beauty and social media life cant rescue her anymore she’s willing to do anything to keep relevant. On the other hand, a well-trained young woman, with a nice character, excellent IQ, and independent but not fun on social media, feels she doesn’t have friends; she gradually starts to change herself, wear less, starts talking crude and focuses on maintaining a fake life just to be liked by non-existent people. Being a woman is hard. Women are constantly shamed for everything.
“No boobs? Damn. Grow some. Big boobs? Cover yourself, don’t be so vulgar. No ass? Everyone will laugh at you. Ass? Well, better cover yourself, you don’t want to draw attention to that ass. Short? You need to wear heels. Tall? Worse. You can’t be taller than men. Skinny? You have to gain weight because nobody likes ‘a bag of bones’. Chubby? Lose weight! Do you know how fat you’ll be when you have children? No makeup? Please take care of yourself. Don’t be so lazy. Makeup? It looks like its only painting herself that this one knows. Career? Good for you! But I hope there’s a man in your life and he doesn’t mind. No career? Haba no man wants a liability now o”
Everybody is trying to paint the picture of a perfect life and trying to ‘belong’. Kenyan Nobel laureate Wangari Maathai opined; ‘African women need to know that it’s OK for them to be the way they are as strength, and to be liberated from fear and silence.’Read More
I really wanted the party wailers to go home before I say anything about this. Initially, I couldn't understand what the whole fuss was about, not because I wasn't following the threads & timelines, but because I thought we said we're now in a digital world so we're keeping up with trends & innovations. But apparently, we don't like news/information as much as we enjoy rumors & threads.
Need I say...
Sex toys, machines, dolls, etc had been a thing of the past, I can't believe we resurrected it for another market that is not ours to gain from. By now, we should have built our own machinery, refineries, robots & figured out how to make this dam of ours give us more power supply but No.... We would rather be unto some - "My name is Chucky, do you wanna play?" vibe.
In 2006, Hendrick made mention of the fact that 5 years from then, people would be having sex with robots. In 2015, a campaign against it was raised by some dude who said it would translate wrongly to the younger generation (the kids). In 2017, new materials became more available for more sex bots to be made and suddenly, everyone's got an opinion. And then... there's the "crazy shallow thoughts" some of us throw around so easily about how men are good for nothing but the money they supposingly give to the ladies & how women are good for nothing but the sex they supposingly give to the guys. Throwing out all logical explanations for what the females & males in their own personal lives are good for, and sidelining the responsible men & women who actually have more or what it takes to give & build with someone or meet them on the same page.
For the past one week, all I have heard about are religious debates or gender shading, on these new release set. The truth about the truth of the matter is that 80% of these noise makers won't buy these dolls because we know how much investments such money can bring, 10% would for the male/female ego of people knowing they have such money to easily spend & the other 10% are the ones with the true religion - No noise & no time. They have already placed their orders.
*Whatever rows your boat*
Using these bots & toys might seem wrong to me but if it isn't wrong to you, it's probably not wrong. We all have different ethical values, different religion and social views. But need I point out that most times when these Foreign Research Centers make stuffs they're not quite sure about, that they may have test run on rats or whatever but not on humans yet, they make Nigeria (as the giant of Africa) aware of them so much that we begin to think we need them. But in actual sense, we are the lab rats or point break for their new invention. These bots can malfunction & become violent - computers are still idiotic machines & can get virus that would corrupt their programming.
The part that touches me the most is that I haven't seen anyone (not even these ones that claim 100% interest in AI) & our noble film script/screen writers, ask the right questions.
To the script writers • Like how do these people do all these? Write & make a futuristic/real movie, that their people work towards, till they make it physical/obsolete? We can't always be telling stories of our past & present. We can create films based on how we envision our future to be, even if it doesn't happen like that. At least, people gotta hope for better things right?
To the AI experts or AI wannabes • Have you seen the series "Almost Human" that came out in 2013 - About a Robot who could behave & feel emotions like us? Fast forward to 2017, they gave "Sophia" to the world.
• Have you seen the series "Humans" that came out in 2015 - About robots called "Synths?" Every set made had one unique function to its group. An house help, a sex worker, pool dancers, kids, miners, etc. They said they would take over the world in the movie sha but that's not my problem. But Fast forward to 2017, we have an advanced sex bots and suddenly, Nigerians that always claim "busy to help their friends" are no longer busy as we thought.
Back to the AI geeks/aspirants, none of y'all have made a post about the level of microcontrollers, sensors, servos, end effectors, Basic or C programmings, their ROS, their availability & all it might have taken to achieve that?
I can recall when a friend of mine wanted to make an all purpose remote for his final year project - To find some parts for it were some weeks' battle.
Can we achieve that?
It shouldn't necessarily be a sex bot though that our vision should carry (let's leave those ones for people whose economy & nation's development are stable for now, and can afford to make other things they haven't created yet.... After all, no one works harder than the devil. But we can afford to have more robots for the hard works like mining & in refineries and not just be thinking on the next plan to put all our money back into growing some other country's economy.
We should see the depth of things & other perspectives once in a many while. We can't be giving so much time to the minor wars, later when the major wars like 2019 presidential election starts - these politicians would just be seeing the youths as puppies barking. Imagine if David spent all his selected stones on killing all the philistines' soldiers instead of "Goliath." Most times, spend small energy for minor wars, so you have reserves for the major ones.
Earlier this year, I made a post that didn't sit well with a lot of people. I captioned it; 'Eastern OAPs Lack Personal Branding'.
I didn't do it out of spite, I just felt our south east OAPs could do better. I'm really happy and proud that on the last day of 2017, I'm making a post about south east OAPs with outstanding personal brands. This is to say congratulations to the OAPs that made us proud.
Vanessa is a certified marriage mentor and relationship coach. She is the host of ‘The Talk with Vanessa’ on 92.5 Enugu’s DreamFm. She hit a milestone this year as the first female south east OAP to successfully hold a campus tour. She visited the Enugu State University of Science and Technology ESUT and the University of Nigeria Enugu Campus UNEC. She went alongside media experts and educated students on the necessity of social media, mastering the discipline of your talent, fighting addictions and using social media for positive change.
With support from major brands in Nigeria such as Airtel Nigeria, Spar, Nazmine media, Bellanaija, Ogwugo.com, DreamFM, Mtouch multimedia, Hustle intelligence, Urban Radio, Karibi Designs she awarded scholarships and over N200,000 worth of shopping voucher to students.
The fabulos Gloria brand has literally been on 'fire' throughout 2017. Currently working as the Head of News and Current Affairs department in 92.5 Enugu’s DreamFm, FabulosGloria’s career in the media spans over 12 years having worked in four media houses to date.
She launched her website www.fabulosgloria.com February this year, and has since grown from strength to strength.
Being the most followed south east OAP on social media, fabulous Gloria was nominated and won ‘On Air Personality of the Year’ at the All Youths TUSH Awards 2017.
The Party Animals:
The Party Animals is a performing duo made up of DreamFm OAP/Hypeman Marcswagz and Dream Fm DJ, DJ Rain . Together they are the hosts of the hit Music show #DreamLounge . They both decided to fuse their individual brands and create the Unprecedented Duo called the “Party Animals”.
The bright side is that they have an off-air presence! Earlier in July, they released their Debut single featuring Jaywillz of Hauze27 titled “Bring it Back”, produced by Dash.
They recently held a campus tour that kicked off at the Enugu state university of science and technology and moved the party to the University of Nigeria Nsukka. They held a carnival to round up the year at La’nueva. The Party Animals are definitely a duo you should look out for n 2018.
That’s all I have. Who did I leave out??
So I was on my way to meet up with some friends at the Ola Ndi Igbo 2017, held 2 days ago. My tired self needed some rest from my trip but I had to drag myself off my bed because of my friends I made get tickets for an event I almost ended up not attending.
Well.... So I got on this bus that had more youths than old people in it and one thing led to the other, social media charity famzii came up. Most of the passengers felt it was unnatural & hypocritical to give alms & take videos or snapshots of it. Some were of the opinion that it was all for the likes & followers online, for others to actually think you are a good person. Some argued it was genuine regardless.
I was calm & attentive - that was my usual self when I am in a group where everyone have something to say - I listen & observe. The next thing I heard the man behind me say was, "nke nwanyi, I choro ikwu anything." I smiled and said mba, don't worry. I want to just listen."
The thing was I had what to say but I was too tired for the usual bigotry that is common with our country people. Lol.
In my opinion, Truth is relative and often times, most people believe in what they want to believe or what it looks like to them, than what things really are. Life is with no law but that of gravity & friction, we made up the rest and we defined how we felt things should be; what's right, what's wrong, what's true, what's false, what's good, what's bad - and there are all for the best as long as it favours us. We judge people from what we think & then, we judge ourselves from our intentions and motives. Lol
When @UNICEF, @UN, @USAID, @SFH and @MercyShips give alms and make videos or snapshots of them, our love for foreign things somehow lets us see the good motives behind it but when it’s our own NGOs or people, the case is said to be “hypocritical.”
You see @williamsuchemba, @kokunfoundation and the rest of them....
I really don’t see anything wrong with the social media trumpet. The problem we have in this country is that majority of us tend to interpret things negatively. We criticize a lot of things that we may not even do better at.
They talked about slavery in Libya, every Nigerian was of the opinion it was inhumane, wrong, yada yada and we blamed the government we all voted in when cash exchanged hands, but the minute someone asked a question – what if we all donate N100 to bring back the rest of our brothers & sisters in Libya, the comments changed. People started making jokes out of it – some said what is their own when they are here trying to make some cash, some even asked if they were the ones that told them to move to Libya in the first place. It doesn’t take a lot of energy to know that we have a big problem as a people and in the way some of us see things and people.
You see those cameras & videos….
Don't bother about the show. Do your own reality TV where you are helping a person in need if you want - but at least, let us get the message they are trying to pass and help people. Help people & video yours but at least, Help People! lol. Really, that’s all that counts.
Once every year, I watch @adaorambelu start her #payingitforward. I remember the movie I first saw of that and how powerful it is to give and it motivates me. Let’s talk about the #art4acause that happens worldwide and in Lagos.... Following them online can make you want to give back to charity.
How can people even have a problem with that?
I don't mind a video of anyone giving alms as long as the needy still gets to go home with the gift items & money - not even my problem if it was for social or political campaign. At least, someone is giving and someone’s family just got their daily bread and that's all that counts. Lol.
See…. Life is simple, people. I dunno why we celebrate the unnecessary things like #dickchallenge #nohandschallenge #prankchallenge #nomakeupchallenge and the moment someone reminds us of the important stuff - #givechallenge, we feel they are just showing off.
Knowing my country people to a greater extent, I know that this very act would be taken positively & negatively. Positive goes to say – people will start being more charitable & less self absorbed but negatively – a lot of people would start coming out into the streets claiming 150% poor, hungry and the rest and the ones that have been helped, might still come back for more…. And the ones, who have been moved to give a hand, would be discouraged.
But really, what can be done to help people off the street? And before we say “empowerment,” what about those that have been offered that but they refused it? I know of a guy who said he prefers to wipe car windscreens at traffic jams than go to school or learn a skill. I tried so hard not to look surprised when he went further to explaining how he was already an entrepreneur doing that and doesn’t want to give it up.
But really - How bad can the videos really be if it still goes a long way to motivate some people into giving? How many people do know we have nursing homes and not just orphanages in Nigeria? How else can we be reminded that such people still do exist if not through the media that have the entire world on it?
Finding a compatible and suitable life partner is a huge task which every man must be careful when doing so to avoid possible regret aftermath. There exist certain mistakes men do in this process. Searching for a wife is not searching for a girlfriend. This is a lifelong business. In as much as people’s opinion differs, these are some of the found mistakes men make in searching for their missing rib:
Find for me syndrome: This is normally seen in the anti-socials or guys overseas. Your mother or whoever you asked to find a wife for you has their own preferencewhich may be different from yours. You end up marrying a stranger. They might know the lady they chose for you and probably like her but you may dislike her qualities when you guys must have married. It’s always advisable to marry your friend.
Virginity status: Most guys prefer to marry a virgin, their reasons been they are innocent and make a good home. A friend of mine of about thirty-five years of age is still unmarried only for the reason of searching for a virgin. Virginity status has nothing to do with making a good wife and a good home. Deflowered ones can also make good homes because the grounds at which they lost theirs may be justified. Rare but true-Some of our girls are virgins because they haven’t met the opportunity to have sex!
Physique/physical appearance: I wonder what some guys mean by “I am dark, I need a fair partner”, or tall partner and stuffs like that. Does that really matter? The curves and the boobs should not be your priority when choosing a wife. Uncontrolled infatuation should never lead you to marriage. Remember, it’s not girlfriend thing.
Materialism/Connection: Yes, she’s a senator’s or any of the billionaire’s daughter but is she good for you? Are you just coming for her money or connection through her family? Bro! Think twice to avoid story that touch later on. Materialism should not lead you to your early grave!
Educational status:When you met her, she was fluent in speech, clever and smart. She has qualities but you started losing interest when you learnt she’s yet to attend a higher institution of learning. Brother, since you love her why not sponsor her academics before or after the wedding? Who even told you that school is a place for wife molding?
Background/Religious/cultural differences: You left your girlfriend only for the reason that she’s a Muslim or Christian; for a girl within your religious belief that you don’t actually love. Or probably, you learnt she’s from one of those villages demanding higher bride price. Bro, you can do it if you really love her and want to marry her.
Family members’ preference: Considering the choice of any member of your family when choosing your life partner may lead you to the wrong path. That you are bringing her into the family doesn’t make her theirs. She’s yours!
In a hurry/quick search: Most men are always in a hurry when searching for a wife as if the time is crouching up on them. I wonder what they have been doing with their lives all along.They end up having very brief or no courtship. Most times, men end up marrying the wrong girl who must have hidden her weaknesses and bad qualities.
I think it’s better to know your wife better than anyone else before marriage. It is advisable to marry your friend which she must have been in the process of your dating/courtship. Don’t make mistake in finding whom you will live or be with for the rest of your life. If you haven’t found her, relax. Don’t rush. You will eventually meet your soulmate.
About the writer
Solomon Akpa is a Young blogger and creative writer. He is currently studying Anatomy at the Enugu State University of Science and Technology
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The buzzing is here again; the headlines, the news, the protests, the background noises, the digital whistles and the online battles. Revolutions run like the world on a globe and like a door on hinges; it’s all series of rotation that goes a full circumference and still brings us back to the arc, like somehow the friction of time doesn't agree with the motion. Let’s put a price to it, a cost to estimate how much a man is really worth.
Slavery never ended; it's hidden in everything and everywhere we turn to. If our dreams don't hold us captive, our fellow men would. We heard the news of our brothers sold in Libya, we saw the top media debunk the news, and we heard the angry voices that followed it. We have seen it all, all of it. Brothers selling brothers, and sisters taking front lines to refugee camps. We heard the initial uproar of digital disruption and half of the world asking for justice while the other halves keep comfort from the knowledge that none of their own went down. The dust rise everywhere and nowhere and as quickly as it started, the light dies with the match stick.
The constellations could tell the story of a bargain with the devil:
1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6….
A: Are all of them here?
C: Yes sir.
B: This man would go for $400, if you want him.
A: I would take him for $200, he is too lanky.
B: He is a great digger, $300 would do.
A: Okay, load him with the rest of them.
C: Sir, what would happen to these two?
B: Have mercy on them, make it quick and quiet.
Few minutes later, 2 gunshots went off into the night…. 2 souls have been silenced; brothers, uncles, sons, nephews and cousins to someone praying for the next time they would make it home.
We are still not asking the right questions and we still not bothered enough with the necessary details.
Where is the world on this issue?
Who are buying these slaves?
What hope is there at home for the ones being rescued?
Why are Africans leaving Africa? How do we put blames on everyone but ourselves?
Would the UN sanctions stop slave trades?
We see only auctions for males, where are the women and children?
If this is the only time the wound became sore, what happened in September at Sabratha?
Time heals nothing, it replaces memories. It’s like band-aids and we wear them all over our scarred heart, so we don’t deny our heart a space to pump. We let go of the chains a long time ago and the papers only bore the freedom we were promised. We made it to the 21st century and we still tell the tales like it happened a long time ago.
But we are living the news; in racial discrimination, in segregation, in tribalism, in sexism, and in the entire ism” we can’t keep scores of. We have lived with the scars and open wounds for so long; we don’t even realize it’s there any longer. The Mediterranean Sea has buried more men than the world ever did. For greener pastures, we sold our dreams, got trapped, bought over, and sold new dreams to.
Can we count the cost?
"Bread eaten in secret is pleasant, stolen water is sweet but he does not know that the dead are there."
But what do we expect from a state governed by everybody and nobody? Who can we hold responsible? The National Transition Council or the Levant Group or the Al-Qaeda or the Islamic State of Iraq or the Khalifa Hafta? Where’s the place for liberty where there’s no law?
"The devil always has something better he takes, for every time his hospitality finds a home in us."
History records events but not the stories the mouth could never tell, because the victims' minds have lost synergy with their souls. So we never get to hear the loud voices that would always dwell in their heads, reminding them of a blurred past and a not too promising future. The press colonizes the best part and feed us with illusions of what they feel happened. But how do the ones who lived the tales, come back from the memories that rubbed them of their shadows?
This wasn’t Martin Luther’s dream, Frederick Douglass, Harriet Dubman, David Walker, Sojourner Truth, Olaudah Equiano and the rest of them who folded up in knots and turned out their skins for slave abolition. The Cinematographers would tell these stories some day, with facts and an hour plus emotion that we would carry with us, only for a day after we have seen the movie. It's a constant recounts of everything let out from a Pandora's Box.
There's always a root to every problem, a common ground.... but we have gotten used to cutting down trees from its fruits, branches & stems. So we forget so easily that a tree cut down but not uprooted, would always grow back again.
Maybe after all these digital awareness, protests, social media debates, press releases, rescuing of the remaining Africans….We can ask....
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Just to eliminate one factor, this is not to say networking is not a great deal but the origin of the quote “salary is the money they pay you to forget your dreams” can be traced back to networkers.
I personally don’t buy into quotes made anonymously, except it carries a positive message or is thought provocative or is free from conformity. I love quotes that give you space to think more deeply about a topic and this particular one lacks that standard I must say.
True, salary might sometimes be stagnant and fixed but it’s not the money they pay you to forget your dreams. Anyone who forgets their dreams, wanted to forget their dreams. Salary doesn’t come with labels saying, “Dear Employee, we urge you to take this stipend/wages and forget your dreams.”
Life is a pyramid, networking is a pyramid, jobs are in pyramids, and almost everything is a pyramid and has processes. A doctor works in a hospital, a banker/an accountant works in a bank, a lawyer works in a chamber, an OAP works with the media, a petrochemical engineer works in an oil refinery, a pilot works for an airline company, a sailor works on a ship, etc…. That is the dream; to be a doctor, a banker, an accountant, a lawyer, an OAP, a pilot, a sailor, etc. Would you also say they are forgetting their dreams, all because they are working under an organization?
Getting paid while learning on a job or a trade you want to build a business around someday, is not forgetting your dreams. Working a job while doing what you want to do by the side, is not forgetting your dreams. Some salaries can facilitate your dreams, and sometimes…. You have to do what you need to do, before you can do what you want to do. Your salary may not be enough to do most of the things you want, but the experiences would be there to make up for your time.
Don’t leave your job if it’s serving you right because of a quote that was made strategically to buy into your conscience, on reasons why you should consider networking (which is a great strategy by the way). Network on its own runs the same pyramid as any organization, the term Multi Level marketing is part of the branding. You still get paid according to your ranking or filled up slots and there are still people on top the pyramid, who still get higher bids & roll over from all your networking efforts.
You need all the 5 levels of money you can get wherever you go and according to statistics; cash (salary) is still the least of them all.
Most times, I sit down and think about why men feel uncomfortable with successful women. I am writing about this because of what is happening today; this is also one of the things that are happening in relationships today. Today, men feel too intimidated because of the level of work whereby their wives or girlfriend or women in general work in. some of the men feel intimidated because of the amount of money that they pay the women.
It is true women have come a long way. In fact, women are beginning to surpass men in many areas: They have more master’s and college degrees, better GPAs and single, childless women have higher earnings than their male counterparts in urban areas. Hopefully by 2025, more than half the primary breadwinners in this world will be women.
Some people rant that men are less attracted to a woman who is on an equal or higher level when it comes to matters of the money or education, and that a successful woman should step herself down to get a man. I don’t believe that, I believe many men appreciate and admire women who are accomplished, and are not at all intimidated by their strength, intelligence and position in the workplace.
More guys seem to be becoming safer with financial demands on women they’d want to date or marry. It’s becoming quite regular to hear single and unmarried men talk about how they’d love to be with women who aren’t all dependent on them, women who have their own thing going.
But what I don’t understand is that if they want to be with women who aren’t all dependent on them, why do still feel intimidated with them and begin to talk Nonsense when they are with them, most especially when they end up getting married.
These Are The Reasons Why They Feel That Way:
Insecurities: this is the Number one reason why they feel intimidated and uncomfortable. Why? Because they feel that the women meet a man that has higher level than them. These make feel like a sheep in the midst of lions.
Inadequacy: There’s an undue sense of falling short in men when they are not richer or more successful than women. Several men can’t deal with being less successful than the women they’ll be with. It’s not right but it’s what happens.
Ego: For some, it is an ego thing. To be not as rich or not as successful as the woman they’d date or be in a relationship with is unimaginable for them. What if she is playing me again? Play some guys just can't stand being less successful than women.
Society: The pattern of relationships and marriages in the society for such a long time has seen men more successful and being depended on by women and their children. So while men might be insisting for independent women, there are still some who [wrongly] can’t wrap their heads around having a woman who does not depend on them for anything.
Perceived Disrespect: There’s a belief that independent and successful women have tendencies to be disrespectful. Some guys would argue that being dependent for most of their needs is one big reason why women respect their partners.Read More