“Chioma love, there’s this guy that came looking for you, he said he’s Ben”. “Oh, that’s my boyfriend! She shouted excitedly. “He didn’t tell me he was coming”. Lowering my voice, I asked, “Chy, honestly who am I to you?” She was shocked. She wasn’t expecting that question already popped at her. She realized she has let the cat out of the bag. She mumbled “Emy, you are my friend nah”. “Just a friend?” I was ashamed. So monkey dey work, baboon dey chop.
Friend-zoning is a situation whereby one is a dear friend of the opposite sex, so close to him/her but not sexually-wise not even the feelings. Most helpless guys are victims of this. Below are few tips your assumed girlfriend is friend-zoning you.
She doesn’t love you: This is the main reason for this. The love is not there. Some other guy has taken her heart away and you are around gradually trying to occupy just a portion of her heart. It’s not her fault though. That you are close to her doesn’t guarantee her love.
You haven’t declared your intention: Another strong reason. What do you expect from her? She must have waited for you beforehand. You were probably not man enough to define the relationship to her. She cannot do that for you bro. Do that if you really want her. Girls no like wasting of time.
You are not her type: Most girls can go for a guy they feel for. To protect the African dignity of a woman, they don’t declare it but you could tell from certain gestures they display but when your girl doesn’t even look at you twice. It’s probably you are not her type. It may be that you are not financially ok for her or you just don’t possess the qualities she needs in a man.
It’s just not yet time: You are sure you are her only male closest friend, you can swear to that. But still confused why you are been friend-zoned. Nigga, it’s probably her decision not to have a boyfriend for the moment, probably for her previous heartbreaks. Well, reasons best known to her.
She sees you as a mate: Girls have their way of intimidating guys. You will just lose the morale of making her your babe when she only sees you as a mate, classmate, age mate, neighbor or colleague. At times, she vocally lets it out.
She’s taking advantage: Guys let’s be smart. I hate this one. You are her carpenter, her painter, her electrician, her bodyguard. That’s just the reason you guys are friends. Forget those sweet names, she doesn’t feel for you, just taking advantage.
Dearie, There’s absolutely nothing wrong in being just a friend to an opposite sex. It’s okay. But the problem lies in when they are not lovers but one partly feels they are. That’s too bad!
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Solomon Akpa is a Young blogger and creative writer. He is currently studying Anatomy at the Enugu State University of Science and Technology.
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